Erotic spanking is the practice of spanking another for the sexual gratification of either or both parties. Erotic spanking is generally regarded as a form of BDSM (sadomasochism in particular), although many spanking devotees do not regard it as such. Spanking can be carried out with the bare hands or with implements such as gloves, a ruler, hairbrush, paddle, switch, belt (clothing), cane, crop, birch, martinet or whip. It is sometimes combined with sexual role playing and/or age play. It is often delivered on the bare buttocks, and sometimes the spankee is fully nude, for additional humiliation and arousal. Note the issue of legal consent which may or may not represent a defence to criminal liability for any injuries caused.

Positions for spanking include:

• over the knees (OTK) or across the lap
• lying face down on a bed
• stooped over the back of a chair
• hands on knees
• diaper position (supine--genital exposure to enhance humiliation)
• kneeling on a bed or ottoman, stooped over with hands on the floor
• bent under the arm of the spanker
• wooden horse
• birching block
• all fours

Those interested in giving or receiving erotic spankings are sometimes known as spankophiles or spankos. Examples include the poet Algernon Swinburne and the philosopher Jean-Jacques Rousseau.

Many people with a sexual interest in spanking draw on historical corporal punishment techniques used in homes, schools, courts or prisons. However they are generally careful to distinguish their consensual sexual activities from their views of child-rearing, education and public policy. Punishment spankings and erotic spankings are sometimes hard to separate, see domestic discipline.

For straight men who like to be spanked, their spanking fetish is sometimes accompanied by a leg/feet and nylon fetish as well - but not always. Some men who enjoy spanking (whether giving or receiving) like women to wear some combination of a skirt, high heels, garter belt, nylon's, and fancy panties; and may involve the spanker role-playing the part of a strict father, boss, aunt, wife or governess. When men get spanked, they also often like their partner to play the part of a cop, solder or muscle man.

Spanking fetishism

Despite contrary notions, spanking fetishism can often be found with people who were never spanked as a child, often coming out later in life as repressed role playing/wish fulfillment. These fetishes can take on many varieties. In the erotic fiction of this type, spanking is seen as natural as a reflex as sitting on a chair or making dinner. Other types include "spanking between friends", "parent-child spankings", "sibling spanking" and authoritarian school disciplines.

Spanking enthusiasts often keep at hand collections of spanking implements such as paddles; not infrequently, in real life these will be kept on display (such as hanging together on a wall), in either a more or less private place, or occasionally in a more public display (such as in many fraternities and sororities, and some homes). The least personalized and least overtly erotic are usually the authoritarian school discipline stories and pictures, which are less popular in North America, where this tends to vary from place to place. (It is also not unusual for a paddle to be hung on display in the parents' bedroom as a continuing reminder to the children of potential punishment, when in fact it is primarily used for erotic paddling's given by one spouse to the other.)

Playful non-erotic spanking

Sometimes spanking is done in a playful manner that is neither a form of punishment nor is it intended as an erotic act. A tradition that often begins with childhood and can continue to adulthood is a "birthday spanking". This type of spanking is most often associated with a birthday celebration during which sometimes the person celebrating the birthday is spanked playfully, one time for each year of their life - and then some more "to be good on and to grow on", sometimes also "for luck and for love." It is not meant to hurt or overly humiliate the spanked party (although sometimes a paddle is used, and occasionally it is given on the bare bottom). Often the act is also associated with sports participants, who congratulatory slap one another on the bottom.

It is a common practice in North America for a stripper to spank the groom-to-be during his bachelor party, while his drunk friends cheer him on. This can be done either on the stage at a strip club or by a stripper or strippers hired for a private bachelor party. More rarely, at his wedding shower a groom-to-be is given a "gag gift" such as a pair of blue panties that say "Remove before spanking" on the back; and her friends may threaten to have him "try them out" (by having them spank or paddle him) to "see how they work." Similarly, the groom may as a gag be given a paddle with step-by-step "How to spank your husband" instructions painted on it.

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